In Self 2 We Trust
The Inner Game is about high performance, learning from experience and enjoying all of one's life.
After 40 years of observation, these three attributes are what happen spontaneously when a person is working or playing from their natural self. You can observe all three in young children who are just being themselves, showing the many qualities we admire and love. A good example is three-year-old Michael Patton of Dublin, Ireland who made the news recently in a home video that captured him giggling and nonchalantly hitting a string of chip shots through a hole in the roof of his playhouse.
Yet, somewhere in the process of trying to control them to be the kind of children we think they should be in order to fit in with society, we parents and teachers make it more and more difficult for growing children to access the original qualities and attributes they were born with.
At a Roy Group gathering recently, I asked participants to make a list of the inherent attributes they observe in young children. Here is what made the list:
spontaneity – curiosity – an appetite for learning
joy – giving and receiving love – trust – openness
autonomy – creativity – fearlessness – innate confidence
no judgement – contentment (once basic needs are met)
freedom – knowing exactly what they want/need
energy – no worry
After listing these attributes and reflecting upon them, it was impossible for the participants not to develop an admiration for our human existence and to realize that they were once the same way: spontaneous, curious, joyful — free.
And then a rather confronting question came up: So, what happened?
This began the discussion about the emergence of Self 1 and its ability to decide, "I'm not good enough," "I can't do this," "I'm always wrong," "So-and-So is so much smarter than I am" or even "I'm the smartest, the best!" "Look what I can do!" etc.
My recognition of this phenomenon started while on sabbatical from a career in higher education, when I was instructing tennis. This was a time when my Self 1 was strongly crippling me. I began to notice that most of the "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" I was imposing on my students, technically correct though they were, actually interfered with learning and performance. Then, instead of just looking at the students' strokes and correcting every instance of "incorrectness," I started asking a different kind of question: "I wonder what's going on in the minds of these tennis players when the ball comes towards them?"
What I discovered changed the very foundation of how I taught. For the most part, the tennis students were trying to remember my instructions, trying hard to do what I said they should, and trying hard not to do whatever I had told them they shouldn't. In the act of "trying hard" they tightened too many muscles and their shots looked stiff and mechanical. To complicate things further, when I would sometimes say, "Relax," they would get really confused. By "teaching" tennis, I was making tennis harder to learn.
As I started paying more attention to the learning process and less attention to the teaching, I myself learned a lot. Not so much about teaching, but about what actually supports learning and what gets in the way. I learned that, when I asked my students to pay attention to what was happening in their experience, they learned naturally, as children do, more quickly, and, surprisingly, with the enjoyment of seeing themselves improve without being taught how. Instead of analyzing why a student wasn't hitting the ball in the middle of the racquet, then giving three or four corrections based on that analysis, I simply asked the player after each shot to point out the place where the ball actually hit. I would often say, "Don't try to hit the ball in the center" (just to calm Self 1 down) "but be as accurate as you can about where the ball hits." About 95% of the time, it took fewer than seven swings before the student was pointing each time to the center of the racquet.
"Are you trying to hit in the center?" I would ask neutrally, and the reply was often something like, "No, I'm not doing it, my racquet is doing it." "Pretty smart racquet," I would reply. "How does it feel? What do you notice? What are the results?" "It feels great, more solid, sounds better, and the results are much better." Then I'd say, "If you weren't trying to do it, how do you really think it was happening?" "I have no idea," was the usual reply.
My only guess at the time was that, when thinking about the shoulds and shouldn'ts and trying to hit the ball correctly, the player didn't see the ball very well. Later, I realized that my instructions had been invoking the players' stress system — releasing stress hormones —and, in simple terms, evoking the fight-flight-freeze-flock response. In such an environment, the player saw the approaching ball as a "threat" or "a probable mistake" flying through the air. They would often back up (flight), then tighten too many muscles to lash out at the ball (fight), while trying to conform (flock) to how everyone else did it.
Of course, the player's physiological reactions attended to this perception of the ball, and the results were usually worse than desired. Thus the player would confirm his pre-thinking: "I don't have a very good backhand. I'm not a very good tennis player. In fact, I guess I'm just not good at sports." And, finally, after a few more disastrous shots, "I'm not a very good person."
Self 1's favorite trick is to get you to identify yourself with your performance. It wants you to think you are Self 1 or, as my Dad used to say, "I'm a self-made man."
Of course he meant something different, but remembering Dad's phrase made me shudder at the thought of my Self 1 trying to make me who I was, rather than discovering the Self I had always been and would always be during the journey of my life: an independent being with consciousness, with choice, and with a treasure of unimaginable seeds of potential that I could enjoy as they grew and developed.
Who whould have thought that the journey was designed to be a beautiful and graceful process of learning through experience as well as learning to understand and appreciate the value of the gift we have been given simply by being a human being?
W. Timothy Gallwey is the bestselling author of The Inner Game, a series of books which set forth a new methodology for the development of personal and professional excellence in a variety of fields. His long-term clients include Apple, AT&T, The Coca Cola Company, and Rolls Royce, where The Inner Game is applied to leadership, sales, change management and teamwork.
Tim was a special guest leader at the recent Roy Group Mastery Forum in Victoria.
BRought In vs. Bought In
Leaders need to be careful whenever they hear themselves saying the words “buy-in” ... very, very, careful. The people they are talking to just may be having a strong allergic reaction to that phrase.
As a “lifer” on the front lines of organizations, I always felt that buy-in was somehow an obligation or even worse … my fault. If organizational initiatives did not work, it was because we did not buy-in deep enough, last year.
Inevitably, it felt the worst on those days when management called us all together for an “all staff” meeting to present us with the new Strategic Plan or some other important “thrust.” (How is that for a piece of cool retro jargon?) In my imagination and the imaginations of those sitting next to me, the management team had been off to some island with a facilitator, a five iron and a flip chart and were now ready to “roll out” the new plan. Oh, how we lived in rapturous anticipation of, once again, having something rolled out over the top of us.
There they were at the front of the room, sitting in a row, addressing the masses while pounding through a thirty-six page PowerPoint deck, and almost always wrapping up with a perky exhortation of, “Now, all that we need to make this work is your buy-in!”
It always made me feel like one of those old dudes in the balcony on The Muppet Show. All I could think was, “How about taking me along to the resort next time if you really want my buy-in?”
Ten years later, I discovered systems thinking. One year after that, I had the amazing opportunity to facilitate a process with our entire organization in a community hall. Everyone from the summer interns to the Director General was there. With the right design of the day and practitioners who knew how to run it, we hosted hundreds of small and large conversations across classification lines, across departmental lines and across long-held mental model lines.
We wound up the day with over one-hundred and twenty recommendations, ideas and possibilities covering a wall at the end of the hall. Our Director General closed the day by saying, “I have been going through these recommendations. Some are brilliant, some might be possible and some are never going to happen. Three weeks from now, we are heading off to the island to do our annual planning exercise. I am taking this valuable intelligence with us and we are going to use it to have the conversations that we need to have.”
And he did.
When management returned and called us together, we could see elements of our day together in that new plan … not everything, but enough to know they had listened and used the most timely and most relevant suggestions that we had offered. We had been invited in at the front end of the work, instead of trying to be sold to, out the back.
We didn't need to be bought in - because we had been bRought in.
That big Roy Group “R” had made all the difference.
We should be asking some hard question these days. Are we still using a tired old model where the senior team gets to design the future and everyone else just needs to do what they are told? Or are we the kinds of leaders that co-create, that create space for the conversations that need to happen, and who actually believe that every single person in our organization has seen glimpses and heard whispers of what we could yet be?
Bob Chartier is a song-writer, organizational myth-buster and committed Canadian public servant. He is also a Special Advisor to Roy Group.
We shape ourself
To fit this world
And by the world
Are shaped again.
(From David Whyte’s poem Working Together)
Some special people in my life give me a hard time for allowing my work to define who I am. In many ways I agree with them – I put a lot of pressure on myself to find work that continually meets high expectations: great learning, high-performing teamwork and exciting challenges. There is a part of me however that refuses to heed their caution. I believe work is an opportunity for us to figure out who we are, to grow, to be challenged - to practice. I believe work is an opportunity to shape the world and in return we are shaped by the work we have done. My work is certainly a significant part of who I am.
Roy Group was founded in 2004 to be a vehicle for all those involved to learn about good work and to engage in practice that was fulfilling. I have been able to work alongside incredible leaders that believe work can be more meaningful. I have been fortunate to work with and learn from Roy Group practitioners more interested and passionate about creating great pieces of work than the desire to be great. Roy Group has given me another chance to work with and learn from Ian and Anne-Marie – both Mentors in the truest sense in my life. Roy Group has not just allowed me to learn about what makes good work but it has allowed me to engage in it.
An emerging theme of my unfolding story that has crystallized in my four years with Roy Group is this intentional positioning of leaders and teams to do their finest work. Regardless of where I go or what I do I trust that this red-hot thread will find me and push me along.
Sometimes incredible opportunities present themselves when we least expect them. Sometimes we don’t know how interesting they are until we explore them. As another Mentor once told me, “never let a cart go past without checking to see what’s in it.” I was recently presented with such an opportunity and asked to join an innovative team at WATSON Advisors. WATSON brings together governance, law, recruitment and organizational effectiveness to build boards that are able to be strategic advisors and guardians for their organizations. After careful consideration I realized that this role would allow me to continue to support leaders and teams in a strategic way, but also take full advantage of my experience in law, government and leadership development. After meeting the WATSON team I also realized that as a tribe of passionate practitioners, I could certainly see myself doing good work with them. It is one of those decisions that feels big, but I am excited for the new challenge and the new learning. I start this week!
I am extremely grateful to have been given the last four years to work with you all and I am proud to continue to support Roy Group as a Special Advisor.
I would most certainly like to stay in touch.
Bradley is a Special Advisor with Roy Group and an Associate of WATSON Advisors.
Focus on Self
When we first heard the simple expression “You are the Work” it seemed an obvious, innocent and familiar theme.
Being in the field of leadership development, we often remind others and ourselves that in addition to the demands of our jobs – meetings, tasks, assignments, projects – it would also be wise to build in some time to work on ourselves - learn something new, challenge ourselves, express something creatively or even just take time to read, think or rest. Take a message like this on board a little or a lot, and any of us start moving in a good direction. A good reminder. A comfortable stretch.
But "You are the Work" is one of those phrases that keeps beckoning at you – the kind you repeat to yourself at the bus stop. Our safe original interpretation doesn’t really do it justice.
The word “THE” is a major clue that there might be some mental model shifting that needs to happen. A more accurate phrase to describe the nudge that we have been providing to our clients is really something like: “You are also important – if there is time when the corporate priorities have been accomplished.” It is not quite as catchy, somehow. Certainly not worthy of a t-shirt. If we really thought about the implications of taking a phrase like YOU ARE THE WORK on board, it might change how we position our identity with the potential of what we do.
When taken to the nth degree, it means that each of us is THE most important piece of work we will ever be responsible for. Any of those things that we thought were the work are really just external opportunities to test our internal operating system in the world (and engage fully in the ongoing process of designing it further.)
Meetings become opportunities to connect with others. Tasks are a chance to demonstrate that we keep our word, fully – even in the presence of time and cost constraints. Assignments become a chance for us to understand new realms and develop those practices that allow us to be more fully who we are. Projects become another chance to strive for a masterpiece.
"You are the Work" might sit uncomfortably with the "service above self" aficionados as far too self-centered, self-absorbed and self-serving. This sort of mental model means that we are more important than the jobs we hold or the organizations we work for. And that is heresy of the highest order. If we buy into this narcissism – the work will surely suffer. The world will surely suffer. Or will it?
It would seem that many of the current mental models influencing work gravitate around vast overextension, personal compromise, gross imbalance and self-sacrifice. So before it is disregarded – take a look at the quality of work that would come about when a focus on self is at the core. People would engage each other, properly. People would be accountable for their work products, on time and on budget. People would have an appetite for learning and making themselves more valuable. People would ask for feedback and use it to strive for finer and finer results. People would begin to choose challenges worthy of who they are.
And when individuals working this way come together – what happens in terms of meeting the core purpose of organizations? Mindful, principled and deeply meaningful work. Hmmm. Just what the world needs more of.
Ian Chisholm is the Founding Partner of Roy Group.
Power of Pause
Anna Lisa Bond
We often hear people use the word pause.
It is used in many contexts, having very different meanings. To pause - a temporary stop or rest; a cessation of activity; a break or suspension. Pausing can occur in a moment and it can expand into a longer period of time. What is our current understanding of the action “to pause”? A moment of breath, a break from an environment, a retreat from the norm, an opportunity to reflect? A time of nothingness?
But what, if anything, does pausing have to do with leadership?
This is an invitation to consider what it means to create space for intentional pause as part of a leadership practice. A period of time committed to suspend what we know, our habits and our usual activity. A time to intentionally position oneself in what may seem a state of nothingness, and which is actually a declared space for an alchemy of creativity and novelty to flourish. Pausing invites us to consider what it’s like to be farsighted enough to suspend what we know and do, trusting, that in the process, new possibilities of being and acting will emerge.
“What sleep is to the mind and the body, pause is to leadership and innovation.” (Cashman)
As leaders, we know how to instruct, advise, inform and inquire. In leadership roles, we are required to respond to the systemic needs of the organization on a moment to moment basis. This is what leaders do. We have developed great muscles for asserting drive, control and getting things done. These skills are why leaders are in the positions they are in.
However, GREAT leaders are more than this. They are more than doing and achieving. They are more than the operational skill set required in their roles. Great leaders are transparent and intentional about their own development as professionals and as people. They are aware of the impact that they have on their environments and relationships and consciously invest in their own vitality. The common element that these people share is that they recognize the value and commit to crafting the art of pausing as part of their practice.
When we choose to integrate the practice of pausing, we invite a presence. A presence that offers the possible gifts of a different perspective, a rejuvenated mind and body, a gentle shiver of recognition, or perhaps a subtle shift in how we sense ourselves. It is difficult to experience what is just beyond our knowing, until we create the conditions for that awareness and learning to be cultivated. Once we begin to develop the art of pausing into our practice, we begin to experience, know and see something different about ourselves. In that very moment, we widen our capacity as leaders and as people. Each of these moments impact the environments and relationships that we are responsible to and for. By becoming the curators of our own collection of pausing strategies, we continue to challenge and revitalize others, simply, because of our commitment to widening our own conversation and reflection with ourselves.
What could a honed practice of pausing offer you?
Anna Lisa Bond is an Associate of Roy Group.
In August 2004, I was alone on the Isle of Skye finishing my final month as the first CEO of the Columba 1400 International Leadership Centre. My wife and our three children had returned to Vancouver to stay with her mom and dad and set up our new life there, giving me a chance to tidy up all loose ends in the transition (a.k.a. work my ass off.)
It was a tough time for me. Some regrets had snuck in about things that we had not accomplished at the Centre. I refer to it now as a bad case of CEOitis (which I have realized is quite common amongst senior leaders who leave their post). A strange resentment had festered to a point where people were noticing my mood and were undoubtedly looking forward to resetting the organization with a new CEO. I can imagine that I looked whipped - because I was - grey, tired-out and disappointed in all that had not been accomplished.
Sue and Ron Myers are very special friends of mine that I met in New York in the 90's. They are both the kind of trusted advisors that a young executive needs in his life - their deep experience has seen them advising CEO's and entrepreneurs over decades. They both enjoyed Skye, had made the trip several times and had arranged one final visit to spend a few days with me in my last month at the helm.
I don't know what they saw, or sensed or noticed in me - but they arranged an appointment with me for an afternoon in my cottage (which, at this point had three wooden chairs, a toaster, a case of beer and a hockey bag with my clothes and shaving kit).
We sat down together in the front room by the fire. They wasted no time in giving me the talking-to of my young life.
They called out things by name that they had heard me complaining about - and told me to keep a lid on it. They identified the old ideas that I was clinging on to as if they were the only things that I would ever create - and told me that they never wanted me to talk about them again, and to get busy creating new ones. Sue told me to stop beating myself up and looking for attention. But most of all, in their closing argument, Ron told me that what he wanted to see in me immediately - right there in that room - was an immense sense of "J-O-Y" for everything that had been accomplished on my watch. (He actually spelled it out for effect - which was C-O-O-L).
He didn't need me to brag about my accomplishments - or even talk about them - but I did have to take JOY in them. If there was no room for JOY - then I would have to dump something else that was taking space inside me, so that there WAS room for it. And he told me to keep dumping - until there was room for a boatload of J-O-Y.
My leadership had affected thousands of people. And I needed to take that on. It hadn't been perfect, there were regrets, I'd taken a few tough hits, I had sacrificed important things in my life for the endeavour at hand - but I had made a big old dent in the universe. And that meant that I had every reason to connect to JOY, and to leave the rest behind.
And they just wouldn't accept any other way forward.
My head went down and I started to cry - and then laugh - and then hoot and holler. And then I cried some more and laughed some more, and we drank that beer in the fridge and laughed again. In the weeks ahead, my last on Skye, I reflected on all that had happened and had no choice to admit that Sue and Ron Myers were right - and that they had helped me move on to the next chapter of my life.
Many of you will know that I believe in the power of a non-directive approach and the ownership and responsibility that this approach creates. But what I learned that day is that there is a time when good friends, and trusted advisors, need to lay advice down so clearly that you have no choice but to pick it up - as a strong steer in the right direction - and go forward differently.
Ian Chisholm is the Founding Partner of Roy Group.
April 12, 2013
Hang on, because the path to grow your business can be fraught with peril. This is just not a journey for the weak of heart.
Last August, Incite's executive team met with Roy Group for a two-day retreat. The purpose was to focus on making tough decisions that will help us move forward. After several discussions, it soon became clear that a more focused approach in the marketplace would eventually position us ahead of our competition. But in order to commit to a more streamlined offering, we had to take a few steps backwards (in revenue and market share) in order to hopefully make a giant leap forwards.
It’s easy to say “let’s narrow our service offering”, but actually following-through on this kind of self-imposed constraint is a different story. It resulted in us examining our skill-set, assessing our strengths, and eliminating some unprofitable clients who just didn’t fit what we have to offer.
But, as luck would have it, this was not an opportune time for us to make a decision like this.
Shortly after our retreat, two major accounts made announcements that they could no longer work with us for reasons beyond our control. The CEO of one account passed away, and another account was acquired by one of their competitors.
What we thought would be a short-term revenue crunch turned into a full-blown crisis.
Just when we thought we had made a terrible mistake, Roy Group pointed out that this was "the call" - a mythical milestone that every heroic venture includes. They were using language from The Hero's Journey (from the life's work of Joseph Campbell).
With open minds and eager ears, we listened as they explained the architecture of The Hero's Journey, a series of events that Campbell believed marked the key points in every human story. It goes something like this:
The hero begins in the ordinary world, when “the call” appears to enter an unknown world of strange powers and events. This call reveals a crisis that is unexpected, unpredicted, and daunting to the core.
Shouldering the gravity of this crisis becomes unbearable and the hero within the story is filled with doubt, isolation, anxiety and fear, and finds themselves in "the pit of despair" - depression, darkness, and hopelessness set in.
If the hero can just endure, the theme of hope makes an entrance - closely followed by the most familiar themes of friendship, family, mentorship and tribe. A new order of things begins to show itself and there is a bold "emergence". Fueled with newfound allies and strength, the hero becomes capable of a victory that could not have been imagined in the pit of despair.
During the great banquet or whatever celebration follows the triumph, the hero connects to a sense that there is a new challenge approaching over the horizon. With this "the hero's return" marks the time in the story where the hero makes a courageous choice to quest again, to serve again, to lead again, to be tested again, and to throw themselves to forces larger than them, once again.
As entrepreneurs, executives, and leaders, we know this story. It is ours. It resonated with our situation and accurately portrayed the choices we had in front of us. With help from Roy Group, Incite got through.
Here are a few of the lessons I took from this:
Be conscious and honest about where you are in the cycle of the Hero's Journey and know what it is time for.
Recognize when you’re in the "pit of despair" - engage the chance to have your metal tested and know that there is always a way forward.
Plan ahead and know that the decision to grow will inevitably introduce some form of crisis into your organization.
Good luck on your journey!
Jared Smith is Principal and Co-Founder of Incite, a Western Canadian marketing firm and Roy Group partner in developing the leadership our communities need.
Culture or Not?
March 1, 2013
Recently, for whatever reason, I have been acutely tuned in to and moved by small but big acts of compassion from people who put themselves at the heart of a situation and offered their best to lead. These seemed to be individuals who were not concerned so much about “the job” and much more interested in the actual work.
A recent example got me thinking: has the organisation these leaders are members of wonderfully nurtured a culture to enable such simple and authentic levels of presence or is it that whatever their culture might be “good people” will unerringly behave in the most appropriate and meaningful ways?
I have often pondered too, why some people seem to do excellent work no matter the task, circumstance or environment. I have a friend who excelled wherever he “earned his money”. During our student years I worked with him in bars, on building sites, in offices and on farms. He has since gone on to apprentice in his profession and grown to be a senior leader. In each of these “arenas” he has done wonderful work, no matter the variety of role, the clients he was facing or the people he worked with, for or who reported to him. Culture? Stellar individual? Character? Emotional intelligence? All of these and more?
Join me as I embark on an internal flight with a low cost carrier. There are no frills here. The targets for this organisation are to sell as much as possible while in the air, turn around and get off the ground as quickly as possible having landed and get people on their bottoms faster than you can say, “Is this seat taken?”
As we take off a gentleman in an aisle seat three rows in front of me seems to pass out and collapse across the aisle, held in only by his seat belt. This is the first of this unfortunate man’s ever worsening, very ill, moments during our flight.
Throughout the flight all the attendants, and the Spanish male steward in particular, care for him as though they are travelling with him, as though he is a member of their family. The sales trolley is unceremoniously dumped; he is cleaned and freshened over and over, quietly, sensitively and with great attention. He is spoken to throughout, softly, almost in calm whispers, drawing as little attention to his embarrassment as possible.
Upon landing the steward ensures everyone else waits (for way more than the 20 minutes he is tasked with having his plane back in the air) as he personally helps this gentleman regain his bearings and gradually come to. The steward behaves as though there is no one else there while simultaneously managing to seamlessly engage with all the other passengers.
It is past 11 o’clock now but none of the weary, mainly business travelers, complains about the ever increasing delay. We all seem mesmerized by the elegance of this steward’s kindness and attention. Without speaking he insists that we also think only of this other person. We feel transported to a calmer, kinder place. We are moved by his humanity. As I leave the steward is now wishing everyone else a good evening. I say, “thank you” and he nods back to say that he understands what I really mean. There is a hush in the baggage collection area and strangers are talking quietly to each other.
Now I have no idea if the organisational culture creates this powerful leadership. I have no idea if there is a rule which says that this is what you must do if you are a steward in this situation. I am fairly sure it wouldn’t have mattered. This steward simply could not, not have behaved as he did.
I imagine this steward would have been a success in bars, on building sites, in offices, on farms or in any other profession. It is who he i
Mark Bell is a Special Advisor of Roy Group and Co-Founder, with Ian Chisholm and Robert Henderson of re-find the future.
A Coaching Approach to Conflict
I think it is only human to look back on past experiences and feel regret about missed opportunities. I am pretty hard on myself, so I feel this way at times. I have also been able to see a common thread that binds many of these missed opportunities. I did not lean into conflict the way I should have. The situations, the people I worked with and my leadership would be much stronger today if I had saddled up some courage, believed in who I was and walked into more difficult conversations.
My story is not unique. We work with many senior and emerging leaders who, although fearless when it comes to taking risks, making a courtroom submission or designing an ambitious strategic plan, side step when it comes time to address uncomfortable, difficult situations with their colleagues. For many of those leaders who have just retired, their single greatest regret was not capitalizing on the value that these situations could have created.
Most of our clients have been introduced to a coaching approach to leadership at some point in their engagement with us. They embrace the practical tools and the underlying philosophy – the question they inevitably ask is how does this approach work when emotions are high, when you have "skin in the game" and when an inevitable change of course is really, really uncomfortable?
We have been working a lot with this question. Over the last three years we have been building an approach that will both help our clients navigate conflict in a more productive way but that also fits with the coaching approach to leadership they have already been introduced to.
Without getting into detail about the approach - I wanted to touch briefly on the thread that connects coaching and this powerful way of seeing and approaching conflict. The philosophy of coaching that resonated most with me was the idea that wisdom does not only exist within me, but in the system. Often what is needed is well crafted, objective questions and the space to let the answers emerge.
I was excited about my introduction to conflict – I walked into the room with Anne-Marie Daniel and Alice Estey – both masters in the world of conflict resolution. I thought I was going to be learning the skills that would allow me to send the all-convincing message, to stand my ground and change the behaviours of others. Although that was part of the learning – it was only a small part. Most of the work, to my surprise, focused on changing my perspective, becoming more objective (even when I was personally entangled), listening for the gems and crafting the types of questions that get to the heart of the matter. Sound familiar?
What I learned from Anne-Marie and Alice was that the foundations of coaching play a powerful role in not only managing conflict but finding opportunity in it. I am practicing - I just wish my practice would have started years earlier.
Bradley Chisholm is a Partner of Roy Group.
Letting go is hard to do: Shifting your professional practice to a practice of leadership
Imagine walking into the dressing room of the Team Canada Olympic hockey team, dragging Sidney Crosby out to the luge track, throwing him onto a sled and expecting him to win gold. We would never do it. We would never take someone fully immersed and masterful in his sport, throw him into an arena totally foreign and expect the same level of mastery. We would never do it in sport, but we do it in our professional organizations all the time.
We take our high performing lawyers and doctors out of their courtrooms and operating rooms – the arenas where they have pursued mastery, we add the word “Managing” or “Chief” to their business card and then wonder why our teams lack “leadership”. There is a significant disconnect between the value we put on the quality of leadership - the culture of our organization, vision, engagement of the team vs. the time, resources and the support we devote to intentionally developing the leaders of our teams. We expect them to jump in and perform as masterful leaders.
There are a couple disruptive mental models at work here.
1. The only valuable learning is technical learning. A common theme we have experienced is that worthwhile learning in a professional environment needs to focus, solely, on the substantive disciplines of that profession. Lawyers learn about new legislation and case law, doctors learn about new medical developments, designers learn about exciting industry innovation. Creating opportunities for learning around disciplines that would position professional to begin their leadership practice is often considered an expensive investment not “connected” to the core business.
2. Leaders are born. We carry around the idea that some people are born to be leaders and others must be content to follow. With this approach we can see why ‘leadership development’ becomes a process of identifying those who exhibit what we believe leadership needs to be and then throwing them down the icy track – kicking and screaming if we have to.
What is possible when these mental models begin to shift? We have had the privilege of working with Mentors who have instilled in us the belief that leadership is a choice and a practice. We each have the ability to choose leadership and by doing so we choose to begin to learn and practice methods, tools and skills that will help us become stronger in a leadership role. These practices are different than our professional practices; for some professions very different, and therefore the learning is different too.
If you are a professional moving into a leadership role – you may have to fight for the learning opportunities you need to get better at your leadership. You may be the only one in the office immersing yourself in this different type of learning – and often it means setting your professional practice aside to make space for the new.
For many, moving into leadership does not just involve setting aside a practice, but setting aside something we are masterful at. Over a lifetime we get the chance to become masterful in a collection of things… and it’s all in the combination. Think of the stories we can make happen in our professional organizations, in our families and in our communities if one of the masteries we have chosen is leading self and leading others.
Like a longtime skier learning how to snowboard for the first time – there’s going to be some bruises and sore muscles, but it’s worth it in the end.
Bradley Chisholm is a Partner of Roy Group.